ok it just happened again 
logs (from the logs file, filtered with jabber keyword)
Aug 27, 2009 11:20:00 AM
hudson.plugins.jabber.im.transport.JabberIMConnection$Connector run
INFO: Connect thread interrupted
Aug 27, 2009 11:20:00 AM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.transport.JabberIMConnection
connectAll
INFO: Connected to XMPP on im.f4-toys.com:5222
...
Aug 27, 2009 11:54:26 AM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher perform
INFO: Notifying suspects
Aug 27, 2009 11:54:26 AM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Default Suffix: @f4-group.com
Aug 27, 2009 11:54:26 AM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: dmo dmo
Aug 27, 2009 11:54:26 AM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: dmo dmo
Aug 27, 2009 11:54:26 AM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: yjo yjo
...
Aug 27, 2009 12:50:31 PM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher perform
INFO: Notifying suspects
Aug 27, 2009 12:50:31 PM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Default Suffix: @f4-group.com
Aug 27, 2009 12:50:31 PM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: dmo dmo
Aug 27, 2009 12:50:31 PM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: yjo yjo
Aug 27, 2009 12:50:31 PM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: yjo yjo
Aug 27, 2009 12:50:31 PM hudson.plugins.jabber.im.IMPublisher
calculateSuspectsTargets
INFO: Possible target: yjo yjo
however i have this in logs :
Aug 27, 2009 11:21:20 AM org.jinterop.dcom.core.PingObject read
SEVERE: Some error ! Simple ping failed , hresult: 1912
like a thousand times
in the build console logs i have :
Recording test results
Sending notification to suspect: yjo@f4-group.com
Sending notification to suspect: dmo@f4-group.com
and that's the last lines.
stack traces incoming
It would be incredibly helpful, if you could attach a stacktrace taken at the
moment when the build is not responding anymore. Otherwise I can probably only
guess what's the problem. You can use jstack
(http://java.sun.com/javase/6/docs/technotes/tools/share/jstack.html) fot that.